What you should look for in your future life partner?!

Are you about to change your single status to just married?! Hold on, take out time and read this, it might help you and give you clarity to take decision. What you must look in your future life partner? Read on:

Character Strength:

 

This can be better evaluated as how the person behaves when put under a challenging situation. Psychologists have proved that humans have highly fragile  character, especially when it is a matter of loosing or gaining something. and matter related to self versus others. Always look for a partner with strong character. These people usually do not undertake any short-cuts, and never compromise with the value system. They display very strong character, fearless and positive.

Educational Background:

No matter what, education has a lion role to play in building the individual character and also in intelligence. We might argue and find education irrelevant at times, but it is the base of the individual talent and one must choose a partner who is educated. Do not run blindly behind over qualification, but also do not settle with average. cause both these have their own limitations and it is difficult to navigate through life.

Financial Strength:

In today’s time along with any other things money is equally important. We see many talented and educated individuals with less or no money, struggle a lot in life. It is possible to earn less in young age, but if person is educated and talented than there is always a scope to earn big. To stay comfortably, along with love we need money too, so be practical and see this side of the coin also.

Empathy & Emotional Intelligence:

There seems a gradual decrease in empathy level of every individual. People are going on either extremes, over sensitive or total insensitive. Being empathetic is a virtue that few people are born with, others have to cultivate it. Empathy can be better tested on societal issues and how much an individual is keeping balance, emotional balance will determine Emotional Intelligence. Respecting self and respecting others are two most important aspects one must see in the future life partner.

Agility & Ability:

Person with agility (flexibility) will have higher chances of surviving odds of life, adjusting to situation and people takes a toll on mental health, if one is flexible enough than it will be a boon in time to come. Ability to adjust, ability to accept failure, ability to bounce back etc. are abilities Must have in the person. If ability is a question mark than one should think before taking a big decision of getting married to that person.

Personality & Presentability:

Personality though comes last but it does come. Personality and Presentability is in fact becomes base for any other traits. If a person has weaker personality he/she will not stand in the race, and always feel low on confidence, that will hamper the growth. On the other hand, too loud a personality is also not a welcome choice. People with loud personality also find themselves isolated and unwanted in a majority crowd. They run a risk of being a object of laugh also at times. Personality and Presentability should match with overall characteristics and culture.

Girls & Boys, be careful of the trap, marriage, be it arrange marriage or love marriage, above 6 points must be thoroughly evaluated before saying “Yes” or “No”

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3 Most Effective ways to Teach Values to our Child

3 Most Effective ways to Teach Values to our Child

As parents we are designed to deliver few essential things to our kids. One such thing is teaching them values. Imagine, a situation where a father is a smoker, and how he would say to his child about “Do not smoke”? Well, exactly this and many other conflicting situations we face with our children.

Let us evaluate this, Out of 100 things that we do for our child, let us list down those which are value based. Of course buying clothes and toys and books would be considered as a mandatory service to our child. But, can we list down few things that will be clearly value based things? For example, asking your child to wash hands before eating food and finishing homework on time every time.

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   1.   One at a time principle:

This is very important as we often give multiple values and overlapping advice, but it leaves little impact or no impact in some cases. Best way is to determine one value and continue to emphasis on that for about a fortnight or a month, depending on the child’s overall acceptance and understanding. Remember do not get tempted to pass on two three values in one go. One at a Time will be much easier for your child to remember and practice.

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    2.  Exemplify your behaviour:

“Practice what you preach” Most parents complain that the child is not obeying the rules, my question to all those parents, “How many time do you obey rules?!” Child learn from observation. He sees you breaking the rules so easily and carelessly, for example while driving your car how often you jump the traffic signal? or how often you reach late to office ? and how often you lie over the phone when your child is listening your phone conversations? these are the indicators that we need to first exemplify the values. 

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    3.  Reward the behaviour genuinely:

It is easier to reinforce the learning if we timely appreciate and reward even a slightest behaviour change in our child. Most parents consider reward as a bribe and hence practice rewarding as and when they want to get over certain things. While few others think that rewarding will result in habit of ‘Give and take’ and so hardly reward their child. Remember parents, if you are willing to make your child a truly value centric adult in future, you got to give rewards for every improvement shown by your child. The catch here is to reward genuinely and reward behaviour. Do not reward for the sake of pleasing the child. Child is smart enough to understand your intention and gestures. You can reward him for keeping his books at a proper place, or watching Television at a scheduled time only, or even may be for washing his own clothes. 

There are several ways we can inculcate the values in our child, but easier is the better. It also gives us a sense of satisfaction when we see immediate and profound change in our child. Do apply above techniques and see the different.

Have a Happy Parenting !

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Shape up your Attitude

5 most effective ways to shape winning Attitude

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Understand your Attitude profile:

It is quite an important aspect to know about what type of attitude we carry. People have been classifying attitude as Positive attitude and Negative attitude. I am giving you another dimension to this, it is not always necessary that we have either of these two. Some time we are in between these two. One may have passive attitude and one may have enrolling attitude also.

Let us assume if attitude is a continuum, then perhaps we can have three more dimensions to add to it.

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Negative Attitude:

  • Not willing to change for better
  • Not ready to accept another perspective
  • Not keen for self-development
  • Only there to blame others
  • Strong belief about ‘nothing will change’
  • Absence of optimism for life’s good thing.

Passive Attitude:

  • Slow in adopting the change
  • Resistive mostly for everything
  • Self-development is last priority if forced
  • Highly contended or portray as satisfied
  • Not much bother about the change
  • Fearful to try out new things

Selective Positive Attitude:

  • Willing to change but within the comfort zone
  • Present logic and debate or do reasoning before adopting the views
  • Self-development is interesting provided if it is quickly benefiting
  • Raises voice or demand better things if all others are doing so
  • Seek support and assurance of own people
  • Prefer to be in the group but will not lead it

Positive Attitude:

  • Shows readiness to change
  • Accept other’s views with fair judgement
  • Ready to invest time for self-development with a view to leverage for growth
  • Support the larger cause and stay away from conflict and conflicting people
  • Seek appreciation or admiration to boost self-morale
  • Willing to take risk but with an assurance to be supported if fail

Enrolling Attitude:

  • Embrace the change and look forward to new challenge
  • Consider and build consensus with others on differing views
  • Self-development is the daily activity and without looking for any quick benefits
  • Take initiative and dissolve the self-identity during a larger cause
  • Do not bother about the appreciation or the outcome, just keep working
  • Shows no fear of any sort, always ready to face new challenge.

5 Ways to shape up Winning Attitude:

  1. Identify your Attitude Profile:

Decides which level you are on the Attitude Continuum.It is important to accept and acknowledge about our own self. Once you know your attitude profile, next is to prepare for the shift. Shift from your current attitude to the new level. Let us accept that human mind does not work like a switch off-on machine, it will develop over a period by repetitive actions and activities. Take one behavior at a time and change it. Behavior change is quite an easy task if done in the presence of a coach or mentor. They will guide you and assist you in your journey.

  1. Expand Knowledge base:

Read books and Stories those are inspiring yet real. Reading books have been proven way to build the strong character of human being. Develop a habit of reading books and implement the learning in your day to day life. Track your progress and make your best friend or buddy as your third umpire, who will give you neutral feedback.

  1. Cut the cord with People:

Delete or Unfriend those people who are negative or keep influencing you negatively. Remember to keep a healthy heart, doctor removes the blocked arteries. If you are surrounded by negative people it is advisable to shift the place or location may be.

  1. Develop Self-belief:

People with higher self-belief grows faster. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will believe in you. To enhance Self-belief, start taking decisions, without worrying about the outcome. Soon you will develop confidence on your decision power and will gather the courage to the on bigger tasks.

  1. Keep Monitoring:

Self-monitoring is the best way to change our behavior. In case if you fail to do monitoring take help of your friends, coach or mentor who will tell you where you are heading towards. If you stop monitoring, soon you will see your attitude has stagnated at level and you will not be able to move forward.

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